Life is full of great mysteries and profound experiences. Everybody has their shortcomings in life and we often wonder how to reduce them. Some turn to the media, scientific authority, friends, family, and anyone else who seems trustworthy for reliable answers. Depending on who you ask you may get answers such as, "work hard" followed by "do your best" and best of all "beat out the competition"! Now while these answers seem adequate there is one advice that shakes me to the core and that is....be confident. I will attempt to show the reader why this is the most absurd BS you will ever come across.

Many have heard the term confidence but few know how to properly define it hell, even fewer can use it in proper context. Confidence is basically the amount of insecurities you have vs. how much you don't have. Thats what it really comes down to. Now what did I mean by context? When people talk about confidence they usually mean social confidence. Which means you can be "confident" of your abilities to make the gnarliest farts but it adds up to nothing if you aren't supported for your acts.

Therefore it can be inferred that your confidence is mostly caused by either approval or rejection of others. As the great Al E said: confidence is a byproduct of success. (Al E is a blogger who has mentioned this subject in another blog) Think about it for a second, name some of the most confident people you know famous or otherwise. What do you see in these people? These people are usually treated well or at least held in high esteem. Success breeds success and its no wonder that success is correlated with confidence. However as I wrote down before confidence is a byproduct of success not the other way around.

I will most likely continue this topic and add some real life experiences too. Stay tuned...